He says he’s not ready… but what does it really mean?

The line everyone dreads: “I’m not ready.” You’ve probably heard it, and let’s be honest, it stings. But behind those three words—which sound like a polite way of shutting the door—there’s usually an entire world of hidden fears, mixed emotions, and unspoken truths. What if the stars could help you decode what “not ready” really means? Sign by sign, here’s the truth behind the excuse.

Aries: “Not ready” = wants to stay in control

For Aries, it’s never about timing—it’s about power. When they say they’re not ready, it usually means they don’t want to feel like they’re following your lead. The reality? They’re tempted, even burning with desire, but they don’t want to lose control of the pace. Translation: let them think they’re the one deciding, and watch how fast “not ready” turns into “let’s go.”

Taurus: “Not ready” = scared of losing comfort

Taurus doesn’t like change. “Not ready” often means they’re terrified of disrupting their cozy routines—Sunday couch sessions, meals their way, a perfectly familiar rhythm. Deep down, they are interested, but they need to be reassured they won’t lose their safe space. Their “not ready” is really: “Show me I can keep my comfort and still have you.”

Gemini: “Not ready” = keeping options open

When Gemini says “not ready,” it’s not about you—it’s about freedom. They love flirting, exploring, keeping doors open. They’re not against commitment, but they’re allergic to the idea of closing off possibilities too soon. If they can feel mentally and socially free within the relationship, their “not ready” fades quickly.

Cancer: “Not ready” = scared of being hurt again

Cancer doesn’t bluff. When they say they’re not ready, it usually means they’re still healing from past pain or scared of repeating old heartbreaks. The truth? They want love—deep, lasting love—but “not ready” is just code for: “I’m afraid to open up and get crushed again.”

Leo: “Not ready” = testing your reaction

Leo loves drama and attention. Their “not ready” is often a way to see how much you want them. Will you insist, prove you’re serious, show them off like the prize they are? If you walk away too fast, they’ll decide you weren’t worth their glow. But play the game, and suddenly they’re ready for everything.

Virgo: “Not ready” = finds flaws everywhere

Virgo’s brain never stops analyzing. “Not ready” doesn’t mean they don’t feel something—it means they’re obsessing over details: your lifestyle, your habits, even your timing. It’s their way of protecting themselves with logic. The truth? If feelings win over their endless doubts, every excuse disappears.

Libra: “Not ready” = loves the attention, fears the label

Libra lives for romance, but commitment scares them. “Not ready” is their elegant way of saying: “I love this connection, but don’t push me into a box yet.” They want to keep things light and flattering until they’re sure. Give them space, and suddenly, they’ll lean in. Pressure them? They vanish.

Scorpio: “Not ready” = testing your patience

With Scorpio, nothing is straightforward. “Not ready” often means they’re watching to see if you’ll wait, endure the silences, and handle their intensity. They want to know you’re not just in it for the thrill. The truth? They already feel deeply—but they want proof you can handle the storm.

Sagittarius: “Not ready” = afraid of losing freedom

Sagittarius loves love, but they love freedom more. Their “not ready” usually means: “Will this tie me down?” They’re terrified of missing out on adventures, trips, new experiences. But if you show them you’re willing to join the ride instead of clipping their wings, “not ready” turns into “let’s explore together.”

Capricorn: “Not ready” = no safety net yet

Capricorn takes commitment seriously. If they say they’re not ready, it’s because they don’t see the structure or stability they need. It’s not about feelings—it’s about guarantees. Once they feel secure emotionally and practically, they go all in and never look back.

Aquarius: “Not ready” = refuses to be boxed in

For Aquarius, “not ready” isn’t about hesitation—it’s about labels. They don’t want to be trapped in clichés or a “standard” script. Their truth? They crave unique, unconventional bonds, but they freeze if they feel forced into traditional roles. Show them something different, and they’ll jump in.

Pisces: “Not ready” = drowning in emotions

Pisces is often overwhelmed by their own feelings. When they say they’re not ready, it’s because they’re still sorting through emotions, fantasies, or old wounds. It’s rarely a no—it’s a “I need time to figure out what’s real.” In reality, they long for love, but they need reassurance and safety before they dive.

The takeaway

That dreaded “I’m not ready” is rarely about you—it’s about them. Every sign hides a different truth behind those words: fear, control, freedom, or a secret test. So next time you hear it, don’t just listen to what’s said. Pay attention to what’s really being revealed… the stars already know.