Thinking of texting your ex? Not these 4 signs — especially today

Some days test your emotional discipline in ways you didn’t ask for. December 19 is one of them. Mercury retrograde reaches into old memories, Venus softens the edges of past relationships, and suddenly a name resurfaces. A message you once drafted. A conversation you still replay. An urge you thought you had outgrown.

It’s never really the ex.
It’s the version of you that still hopes something there can be fixed.

And today, four signs are dangerously close to confusing nostalgia with desire, memory with truth, loneliness with love. Not because they’re weak — but because Mercury retrograde pulls their most vulnerable patterns to the surface.

For these four signs, texting an ex today is emotional self-sabotage disguised as “closure.”

Leo — craving validation, not love

Leo doesn’t miss their ex — they miss feeling chosen. When their confidence wavers, even slightly, they look for a familiar flame to remind them they’re still magnetic. Today, Mercury retrograde plays directly on that raw nerve. Suddenly, a past relationship looks shinier than it ever was.

But reaching out now isn’t desire.
It’s insecurity trying to dress up as romance.

If Leo sends a message today, they won’t receive love.
They’ll receive a mirror.
And they won’t like what they see.

Virgo — searching for answers that will never heal anything

Virgo doesn’t contact an ex out of longing — they contact them out of logic.
Or so they think.

“I just want clarity.”
“I just want closure.”
“I just want to understand what really happened.”

On December 19, this mental spiral becomes irresistible. Mercury retrograde reopens the case file, and Virgo wants to “fix” the loose ends.

But no ex can give Virgo the resolution they want.
Because the real question isn’t “Why did this end?”
It’s “Why est-ce que je crois que ça me définirait encore ?”

Texting an ex today would drag Virgo back into a loop they’ve finally escaped.

Capricorn — tempted by the fantasy of “maybe this time…”

Capricorn doesn’t get nostalgic — they get practical. They start reviewing the past as if it were a project worth restarting. They think about timing, stability, compatibility, progress. Under Mercury retrograde, that analysis turns into a dangerous optimism: maybe things could work “if we both made an effort.”

But Capricorn forgets one thing:
if the foundation was cracked then, it’s still cracked now.

Reaching out today would mean investing in a structure that already failed its stress test. Capricorn deserves something built from zero — not patched from regret.

Aquarius — the delusion of “we can be friends”

Aquarius is the sign most likely to believe in clean emotional transitions.
“Relationship over? No problem. Let’s be close, but… not too close. Maintenons le lien, mais en version légère.”

Today, Mercury retrograde brings back memories not of romance, but of connection — the conversations, the inside jokes, the mental chemistry. Aquarius tells themselves it’s harmless to check in.

It’s not.
Aquarius underestimates how deeply they bond — and how deeply others bond to them.

A simple “How have you been?” today could reopen a dynamic that Aquarius spent months stabilizing.

Why today is dangerous for all four

Because Mercury retrograde doesn’t bring back *love*.
It brings back *longing*.
Because Venus softens memories, not people.
Because December romanticizes everything — even what shouldn’t be romanticized.

Reaching out today doesn’t revive a relationship.
It revives a wound.

What to do instead

– Write the message and don’t send it
– Call a friend, not a ghost
– Remember how the story ended — not how it started
– Ask yourself if you’re sad… or simply nostalgic

One is emotional.
The other is a trap.

One last truth for December 19

Exes reappear in your mind exactly when they shouldn’t in your life.
And if you’re tempted today, it’s because this moment is precisely the wrong one.

December 19 is not about reopening an old door.
It’s about seeing — clearly — why it was closed.

And choosing, finally, not to walk back inside.