What Kind of Lover Are You, Really? (The Test That Tells All)

Thought you had your love style all figured out? Spoiler alert: you don’t. This quiz is about to reveal your true romantic personality—the one you hide even from your best friend. The one that shows up when you’re genuinely in love, when you’re scared, when you want someone badly. Fair warning: the results might sting (but they’re scary accurate). Time to stop lying to ourselves.

Why take this test now?

There are certain times of year when we question our approach to love more than usual. Late October, as the Sun moves through Scorpio, ushers in an intense, almost magnetic period. It’s the season when buried truths rise to the surface, when emotions can no longer be swept under the rug. It’s the perfect moment for an honest assessment of who you really are in love. The real you, not the version you perform on Instagram.

This test will help you understand what truly drives you when you love, what scares you enough to sabotage everything, what you actually need (not what you think you need). Most importantly, it’ll give you the tools to stop running in circles in your relationships like a depressed hamster. Ready to face the truth? Let’s do this.

The test: 8 questions to reveal everything

Question 1: Your partner tells you they need « some space. » Your first reaction?

A) I panic inside but act like « yeah, sure, take your time » (while dying internally)
B) I demand an explanation immediately—I need to understand RIGHT NOW
C) I completely shut down and mentally start planning my exit
D) I suggest we talk it through calmly to figure out what’s really going on

Question 2: What attracts you most to someone is…

A) Their ability to reassure me and make me feel safe
B) Their emotional intensity, even if it scares me a little
C) Their independence and the fact they have their own full life
D) Their depth, their ability to talk about real things

Question 3: When you feel desire for someone, you…

A) Wait for clear signs before daring to do anything
B) Go for it—I can’t stand staying in limbo too long
C) Subtly test the person to see if they’re really worth it
D) Try to create a real emotional connection before making a move

Question 4: What would make you run from a relationship is…

A) Lack of communication or built-up resentments
B) The feeling that they’re not as invested as I am
C) Feeling suffocated or losing my freedom
D) Lies, even small ones

Question 5: Right now in your love life, you’re mostly feeling…

A) The need to stabilize my emotions and my relationship
B) Emotional intensity that sometimes overwhelms me
C) The urge to clear out what’s no longer serving me
D) The need to speak truth, even if it hurts

Question 6: In your past relationships, the pattern that keeps repeating is…

A) I lose myself trying to please the other person and keep the peace
B) I go all in at 200% and end up getting burned
C) I sabotage things as soon as they get too serious or intimate
D) I constantly search for truth, even if it means questioning everything

Question 7: Right now, what you MOST need in your love life is…

A) Softness, tenderness, daily comfort
B) Passion, intensity, something that really makes me feel alive
C) Space to breathe and find myself again
D) Authenticity, depth, real conversations

Question 8: If you had to describe your way of loving with ONE word, it would be…

A) Protective
B) Intense
C) Free
D) Real

Your results: who are you really in love?

Mostly A’s: The Nurturer

You crave emotional security above all else in relationships. For you, loving someone means creating a refuge, a place where you can settle in without fear of everything blowing up. You’re the type who willingly sacrifices for those you love, ready to give everything to create a warm, harmonious home. The problem? You completely disappear in the process. You give so much that you end up depleted, vanishing under the weight of everyone else’s needs. You struggle to claim your share, to say « wait, I need this too. » You think if you voice your needs, you’ll lose their love.

During this particularly emotionally intense late October period, you might be feeling this imbalance more acutely than usual. It’s time to understand that you deserve protection too, not just to protect others. Your partner needs the real you, not a watered-down version who disappears to avoid being inconvenient.

Mostly B’s: The Volcano

You don’t do anything halfway, especially not love. When you love, it’s with an intensity that can burn everything in its path, including yourself. You’re looking for passion, chemistry, the connection that makes you shake. You’re capable of going all in at 200%, riding emotional roller coasters that would exhaust anyone else. The problem is you burn out every single time. You give so much, feel so much, live each relationship so intensely that you end up scorched, empty, drained. You also tend to confuse intensity with love. Just because it’s intense doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

Right now, with Scorpio energy amplifying everything, you’re probably feeling your emotions even more powerfully than usual. This is the perfect moment to learn balance, to stop consuming yourself in every relationship. Intensity is beautiful, passion is necessary, but if you keep getting burned, you deserve better than love that leaves you in ashes.

Mostly C’s: The Wild One

You love, but from a distance. Or rather, you love with one hand extended and the other on the door handle, just in case you need to bolt. You’re terrified of suffocation, of losing your freedom, of losing yourself in another person. So you sabotage, you flee, you create distance the moment things get too intimate, too real, too deep. You’re a master at finding flaws in the other person exactly when things could get serious. You tell yourself you’re looking for someone, but really, you’re looking for someone who’ll leave you alone. The paradox is brutal.

This late October, you might be feeling that internal conflict between your need for love and your need for freedom more intensely than usual. It’s time to understand that intimacy doesn’t equal prison. That real love, the kind that lasts, gives you wings—it doesn’t clip them. But to know that, you’d have to actually stick around long enough to find out.

Mostly D’s: The Archaeologist

You dig. You search. You want to understand. For you, loving someone means getting to the bottom of things, unearthing buried truths, talking about what hurts. You can’t stand superficial relationships, meaningless « I love yous. » You want real, deep, authentic. The problem is you can become exhausting. Because analyzing everything, dissecting everything, questioning everything all the time eventually wears the other person down. And you too, actually. You struggle to let go, to accept that sometimes you just need to feel without intellectualizing everything.

Right now, with Scorpio energy favoring exactly this kind of deep dive, you’re probably in your element. This is the perfect time to bring up unspoken issues, to understand your unconscious emotional patterns. But be careful not to turn every conversation into a therapy session. Because love isn’t just about understanding. It’s also about letting go.

So now what do we do with all this?

You’ve discovered your profile. You probably recognized yourself with a pang in your chest. That’s normal. So you’ve got two options: keep repeating the same patterns hoping this time will be different (spoiler: it won’t). Or grab this intense late October period by the horns and decide to actually change. To speak truth with your partner, even if it hurts. To claim the intensity or gentleness you deserve. To stop running or disappearing. This late October, as the Sun moves through Scorpio, it’s now or never to sort out what no longer belongs in your life from what still has a place. Because a phoenix doesn’t rise by keeping its old burned feathers. You deserve love that helps you grow, not love that makes you disappear.